Thursday, 23 January 2020

B Blog

Divorce and The Church

“For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, ” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”(Malachi 2:16 NLT)

How do I handle a situation that has ended up in divorce as a Christian? 

1. Fight for your marriage, God can reverse the irreversible. I had a testimony from the TV from Anglican Priest Nicholas (Nicky) Gumbel, that handles the alpha course in UK. He narrated how God miraculously restored a marriage that was in the last stage of a divorce proceeding. The lady had moved on with another man, yet God reversed the situation after a Billy Graham crusade. The couples were reconciled again by Jesus. God is a powerful restorer that can restore your marriage if you put up a fierce fight. Jeremiah 32:27, Math11:12, Neh4:14:

“And I looked, and arose and said to the nobles, to the leaders, and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, great and awesome, and fight for your brethren, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your houses.” (Nehemiah 4:14 NKJV)

2. The bible says a divorced christian must remain single, if anyone marries her or him, he or she is committing adultery(Luke 16:18). You can pray for the grace to remain single. I am sure if the fellow is sincere and is determine about his or her request, God will provide the grace to remain single without remarrying. 

3. Now when God spoke to our heart about this, He said to us most people are hiding and deceiving others pretending to be living single yet they resort to using vibrator in their closet to satisfy their sexual desires. God said to our heart, can anyone hide from Him, we cannot hide from God, hence the third point. 

4. If you don't have the grace to remain single after a divorce, please don't pretend. God gave us a scripture that we should come to Him to reason together( Isaiah 1:18). Hence a divorce fellow that cannot stay single that has resorted to using vibrator or tormented by lust should go to God in prayers and fasting to reason with God. God gave us a scripture that He is the potter, if the clay or vessel is marred or spoilt he knows how to make it over or rework the vessel. “And the vessel that he was making from clay was spoiled in the hand of the potter; so he made it over, reworking it into another vessel as it seemed good to the potter to make it.”(Jeremiah 18:4 AMP)

5. Meaning God is capable of reworking or reshaping marital destinies. In this dialogue as we were having a shower, it was laid on our heart that a lot of people especially women are in bondage to the doctrines, ideology and teaching of men, rather than seek counsel from God on a way forward. He said a lot of women out of the fear of what people would say are dying inside, committing secret unholy acts. God said we should tell His people, He loves them and does not want them to end up in hell, hence they should open up to Him and seek counsel from Him. 

6. We were reminded of the woman by the well with several failed relationship or marriages, yet Jesus visited her to sort out her issues( John 4:4-19). The same God can visit you personally and sort out your marital issue. Don't run away from God, reach out and cry out to Him. Do what God says you should do. God's true counsel supersedes the counsel of men. 

7. The devil knows God hates divorce hence he is using it as a weapon to restrain the destiny of so many especially women. Is a pain to see several brilliant, honest and God fearing women hindered spiritually or otherwise to fulfil destiny. Now is the time for the church to come out and wage war against divorce and win back the souls of those the devil has stolen through divorce. 

8. We have written this article as inspired, please note, this article is not endorsing divorce in anyway. The truth remains God hates divorce, out of His love and mercy He is seeking to restore those who have gone through painful divorces. Those who have left God or the church as a result of painful marital separations.  

9. If you wake up one morning and walk away from your marriage as a result of lust, pride, ego, running away from responsibilities or a flimsy excuse this article is not for you. Let us explain, a lady said to her pastor after having children with her husband, ' I don't love my husband, he is not my kind of man.' Her pastor counsel her that after having children with the gentleman, now you don't love him. Who then do you love, the lady kept quiet according to the pastor. Only for the pastor to find out this lady have been lusting after the husbands of other ladies. Hence this article is not for such people who walk away from their marriages due to financial challenges, desire for material things or lust. It is for our brothers and sisters whose marriages and relationship have come under constant satanic attacks leading to hatred, misunderstanding, poverty, barrenness, abuse, domestic violence then separation and divorce. We ministered in a program some years ago in Nottingham, UK. After the program, a lady said to us: I am here because of domestic violence, for strange reasons my husband has really changed negatively, hence we were separated. We prayed and left, few months later God intervened and restore their marriage. 

Prayer Points: 

1. Pray for reconciliation in all homes going through marital turbulence.  

2. Pray that God will visit divorced couples and reconcile them. 

3. Pray that the children who are often victims of marital separation should be taught and brought up by the Lord. 

4. Pray for peace and rest in the homes of all believers worldwide. 

5. Pray for your home, wife, husband and children.

Remember a strong and stable family produces a solid church. Destroying the home is a weapon by satan to attack the church of God. God bless. Jesus Loves You. 

( Constructive comments welcome after reading)